A Man Need to Know how his Leadership Impacts You, Starting with the First Date

From the very first moment you interact with a man, he is leading. The way he plans the date (or doesn’t), how he speaks to you, how he follows through—these are all indicators of his leadership. But here’s the thing: He won’t know if his leadership is inspiring or disappointing you unless you tell him.

Men respond to feedback, not mind-reading. If he does something that makes you feel safe, desired, and cherished, tell him:
>> “I loved how you took charge of the plans tonight. It made me feel so cared for.”

If his leadership is weak or uninspiring, don’t ignore it or make excuses. Let him feel the impact of his choices:
>> “I appreciate spending time with you, but when I have to take the lead on all the plans, it makes me feel like I’m in the masculine role.”

High-value men want to lead, but they also want to know their leadership matters. When you communicate how his actions make you feel—both positively and negatively—you give him a chance to rise.

The right man will adjust, step up, and claim his role as a leader. The wrong man will dismiss your feelings or make excuses. Either way, you’ll have your answer.

So from the very first date, let him know how his leadership impacts you. The right man won’t just listen—he’ll act on it.

With Love, Jenn