How To Attract a Man on Your Level

(Hint: It’s Not About Chasing—It’s About Becoming)

Have you ever wondered why the men you attract don’t match the level of strength, confidence, and leadership you desire? Maybe they seem passive, unsure, or hesitant to claim you fully. Or perhaps they’re strong in some ways but emotionally unavailable or unwilling to commit.

The truth is, the kind of man you attract is a direct reflection of the energy you embody. If you’re not attracting strong, masculine men who want to claim you, the solution isn’t to chase harder, lower your standards, or “prove” your worth. The solution is to lean deeper into your feminine energy.

Masculine Men Are Drawn to Feminine Women

A truly masculine man isn’t looking for competition—he’s looking for a woman who embodies the kind of feminine energy that inspires him to step up, lead, and claim her fully. That doesn’t mean being weak, submissive, or losing yourself. It means becoming a woman so secure in herself that her presence naturally calls forth a man’s deepest desire to protect, provide, and pursue. 

1. Stop Over-Giving, Start Receiving – Strong men aren’t looking for a woman who does everything for them. They want a woman who allows them to give. If you’re always in control, always fixing, and always doing, you’re operating in masculine energy. Instead, lean back, receive, and let him step into his natural role as a leader.

2. Be Receptive, Not Controlling – Feminine energy is open, soft, and magnetic. Masculine men don’t respond well to force or pressure. If you find yourself always leading the conversation, planning the dates, or initiating everything, take a step back. Let him pursue. The right man wants to lead—if you give him space to do so.

3. Embody Confidence, Not Desperation – A man on your level is attracted to a woman who knows her worth and doesn’t settle. She isn’t chasing validation or proving her value—she simply is valuable. The more you trust that the right man will recognize your worth without you having to convince him, the more effortlessly you’ll attract him.

4. Express Your Desires Without Fear – A high-value man respects a woman who knows what she wants. Feminine energy isn’t about shrinking yourself—it’s about being deeply connected to your desires and expressing them with grace. When you own what you want in love, the right man will either rise to meet you or move aside for someone who will.

5. Let Him Claim You – The biggest mistake strong, independent women make is trying to force a man to claim them instead of allowing it to happen naturally. A truly masculine man wants to pursue, protect, and claim the woman he desires. If you’re always leading the relationship, you rob him of the opportunity to step into his masculine role.

You don’t chase a high-value man. You become the woman that naturally attracts him. When you step fully into your feminine energy—confident, open, and receptive—strong men will feel it. They will be drawn to you. They will want to step up for you. And the man who is meant for you will not hesitate to claim you.

So if the men you’re attracting aren’t on your level, don’t settle or force it. Shift your energy, embody your femininity, and watch as the right man rises to meet you.

With Love, Jenn