Love Isn't About Keeping Score

Let’s talk about something that quietly erodes even the best relationships: keeping score.

You know that feeling when you do something nice for your partner, and then you secretly wait for them to return the favor? Or when you start tallying up who did what—who planned the last date, who apologized first, who’s putting in more effort, who gets to relax more?

That’s tit-for-tat thinking, and it’s toxic to the relationship of your dreams.

A Couple Things To Remember:

1. Love Isn’t a Transaction: Relationships thrive when they’re built on generosity, not obligation. When you give from a place of love, without expecting something in return, you create a dynamic where love flows freely—without pressure, resentment, or hidden agendas.

2. Giving Freely Feels Better: When you shift from “What am I getting?” to “How can I give?” you step into your power. You’re no longer waiting for permission to feel loved—you become the love. And guess what? The right partner will meet you there.

3. Keeping Score Breeds Resentment: When you tally up every effort, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Instead, trust that when you’re in the right relationship, both people naturally pour into each other—not because they have to, but because they want to.

So, the next time you catch yourself keeping score, pause and ask yourself: Am I loving from abundance or fear? The relationship of your dreams isn’t about who did what last—it’s about creating a space where love, trust, and generosity lead the way.

Relationship are a place you go to give, not get. Remember that. 🌹♥️

With love, Jenn