The Subtle Mistake You're Making That's Pushing Him Away

Ladies, let’s talk about something that might be sabotaging your relationships without you even realizing it: mothering men.

It’s easy to fall into this trap—reminding him of his responsibilities, making all the decisions, or stepping in to ‘fix’ things when he struggles. On the surface, it feels like you’re just being helpful, supportive, or caring. But here’s the truth:

When you start mothering a man, you’re stepping into your masculine energy.

And guess what? That’s the LAST thing no man finds attractive.

Masculine men are wired to lead, provide, and protect. They WANT to make decisions, take charge, and feel needed in their role as the provider. When you take over those responsibilities, it unconsciously signals to him that you don’t trust his ability to lead. This creates tension, resentment, and ultimately, distance.

Why is this so off-putting?

Because it disrupts the natural polarity that creates chemistry in a relationship. Masculine energy thrives when there’s space for it to lead, and feminine energy shines when it’s in a state of receiving and trusting. When you step into the masculine role, you leave no room for him to show up in his.

Imagine this: You’re craving a partner who’s confident, decisive, and capable—but you’re constantly making the plans, double-checking his work, or micromanaging his life. Without realizing it, you’re robbing him of the very role you want him to embody.

So, what’s the solution?

It’s time to step back into your feminine energy. Let him lead. Trust his decisions. Allow yourself to receive his care and support instead of trying to control everything.

When you stop mothering, you create space for a deeper connection—one where he feels respected, trusted, and inspired to show up fully as the man he wants to be, and the man YOU want him to be. 🌹♥️

With Love, Jenn